July 27, 2003
The Artist Formerly Known As...
Heh. So I took this version of the Ennegram again, and discovered that this time I'm a 4, the Artist or Romantic. I've never gotten the same result twice on that test, whereas for the Myers-Briggs or Kiersey, I'm always INFP.
The Romantic (the Four)
Romantics have sensitive feelings and are warm and perceptive.
How to Get Along with Me
-Give me plenty of compliments. They mean a lot to me.
-Be a supportive friend or partner. Help me to learn to love and value myself.
-Respect me for my special gifts of intuition and vision.
-Though I don't always want to be cheered up when I'm feeling melancholy, I sometimes like to have someone lighten me up a little.
-Don't tell me I'm too sensitive or that I'm overreacting!
What I Like About Being a Four
-my ability to find meaning in life and to experience feeling at a deep level
-my ability to establish warm connections with people
-admiring what is noble, truthful, and beautiful in life
-my creativity, intuition, and sense of humor
-being unique and being seen as unique by others
-having aesthetic sensibilities
-being able to easily pick up the feelings of people around me
What's Hard About Being a Four
-experiencing dark moods of emptiness and despair
-feelings of self-hatred and shame; believing I don't deserve to be loved
-feeling guilty when I disappoint people
-feeling hurt or attacked when someone misunderstands me
-expecting too much from myself and life
-fearing being abandoned
-obsessing over resentments
-longing for what I don't have
Fours as Children Often
-have active imaginations: play creatively alone or organize playmates in original games
-are very sensitive
-feel that they don't fit in
-believe they are missing something that other people have
-attach themselves to idealized teachers, heroes, artists, etc.
-become antiauthoritarian or rebellious when criticized or not understood
-feel lonely or abandoned (perhaps as a result of a death or their parents' divorce)
Fours as Parents
-help their children become who they really are
-support their children's creativity and originality
-are good at helping their children get in touch with their feelings
-are sometimes overly critical or overly protective
-are usually very good with children if not too self-absorbed
