August 10, 1999
Dream Wedding
Hm. Quoting Weird Al a lot lately... maybe I should make this an official daily thing. Only problem is, I don't think I know enough Weird Al to pull it off. Something to consider, I suppose.
Last night I dreamt that I got married again. It was one of those very vivid, extended dreams. You know, the kind that seems to span several months' worth of time? The odd thing about it all is that I dreamt I married someone I know already in real life. The dream was realistic enough that it's tempting to think that's how it would really be. It's tempting to think I could be happy that way.
Everything was vivid, from what kissing him felt like, to hearing him propose. We talked about problems that might come up in our marriage and how we'd deal with them. We discussed wedding plans. Apparently I still lived in the same place, because I saw us sitting on my couch in my living room. I think I woke up before the actual wedding itself, but the intention was there. Or did I? Maybe I just skipped the wedding in my dream, because I remember dreaming about actually being married. I find that interesting. Most people, when planning to get married, spend more time focused on the wedding and less on the marriage itself. Maybe I learned my lesson.
It's hard to explain really. I'm not saying that I'm going to rush out and propose to this person. Obviously this isn't someone with whom I am romantically involved (since I'm not romantically involved with anyone). I'm not usually someone who looks for a lot of meaning in her dreams either... but when they're as vivid as this one, it sort of makes me sit up and take notice. So, what does this really mean?
Is something telling me I should pursue this person? Or is it simply an indication that some of my negative feelings about marriage are fading? I've really been mulling this over today, trying to figure it out. Finally I gave up and looked in a few online dream dictionaries. Here's an interesting thought. I looked up "wedding":
"It usually symbolizes the joining of many parts of self. The coming together in a harmonious fashion of the many parts of your personality or psyche. The integration of the masculine, the feminine, the physical and the spiritual."Elsewhere, under "marriage", it said,
"It could represent a greater level of awareness where the dreamer's conscious and unconscious elements are becoming more familiar and are embracing one another."It doesn't strike me as a coincidence that I would have a dream like that after spending so much time working on this journal. The more I write about myself and my thoughts, the more things come together for me. It's a given, and it's usually a subconscious process. Sort of like when you're trying to remember something, and it comes to you when you stop thinking about it. When I write about things, what I'm writing about seems to trigger other thought processes that go on while I'm not paying attention. Now that I think about it, that's true of any sort of writing. Maybe that's why I'm so addicted to producing the written word.
Then again, it also mentioned over and over again that a wedding or marriage dream could simply be a wish-fulfillment. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar, and sometimes a wedding is just a wedding.
If pressed, I'd say it was a combination of both. I know I've been rather lonely lately romantically speaking, but I also know that things are coming together for me inside my head. Happy but looking, I guess is how you'd describe me. Of course, I've read that every person in your dreams somehow represents yourself. That would lend credence to the first interpretation theory.
Or here's an interesting twist: maybe it was a prophetic dream.
Gotta theory? Email me.
Posted by Lisa at August 10, 1999 03:00 PM
